Dear Queenie,

  My husband never wants to have sex with me. He claims it’s because he doesn’t have a sex drive, but I have learned that he regularly goes to one of those “adult entertainment” houses and sees prostitutes.

  Other than this problem he is a good husband.

  Queenie, should I just be happy for what I have?—Frustrated wife


Dear Wife,

  A man who gives prostitutes his business does have a sex drive. However, your husband may have been brought up to think that a “good” woman does not, and that you are only trying to accommodate him.

  I recommend professional counselling for both of you – for him to gain a more accurate view of a “good” woman’s feelings and needs, and for you to learn to understand and cope with his attitude.