Dear Queenie,

  I got divorced when my children were in their 20s. Since then they blame me for everything that goes wrong in their lives, because of everything they say I did wrong as their mother, including staying with their father as long as I did.

  I have tried to explain to them about my decisions back then, but they don’t want to hear about it, they just stop talking to me.

  Queenie, how can I fix this?—Desperate mother


Dear Mother,

  As usual, I recommend professional counselling to help you learn to cope with your children. If you can get them to go with you – to help them learn to understand your side of the story – so much the better.