Dear Queenie,

  My sister and I have always been close and I have always been there for her when she needed a shoulder to cry on. But recently when I needed someone to talk to about a problem I was having she just kind of brushed me off and later when I complained about the way she had treated me at that time she got mad at me for criticizing her.

  Queenie, do you think this is fair?—Sister feeling used


Dear Sister,

  No, it is not fair, but that is how things are sometimes. Some people are better at taking help than at giving it, and because up to now you did not need that kind of help you just did not notice that your sister is like that.

  Try to accept her for what she is and focus on all her good qualities.