Dear Queenie,

  My husband likes to go out to bars with his friends on the weekend. He has children from his first marriage who stay with us every other weekend and when they are with us he stays home, but the weekends they are not here he goes out with his friends and I am left home alone.

  Those are the only weekends we can be together without the children and I miss doing things just with him like going out to dinner or a movie.

  Queenie, how can I get him to spend those weekends with me?—Home alone


Dear Home alone,

  Have you talked to your husband about this? Perhaps he does not realise how neglected you feel.

  Perhaps if he realised that you would like to go out with him sometimes – just not to a bar with his friends – the two of you can schedule certain weekend nights as “date nights” for just the two of you, and other nights for bar-hopping with his friends.