Dear Queenie,

  Our adult children live abroad and all have good jobs, but when they visit us here they expect us to pick them up at the airport, let them stay with us, take them around like a taxi and treat them to all their meals.

  Queenie, isn’t this just too much?—Fed-up parents


Dear Parents,

  Of course it is, but as long as you let your children take advantage of you they will continue to do so.

  The next time any of them is/are planning a visit, let them know in advance, as tactfully as you can manage, that you will not be available for taxi service and free meals, so they had better plan to rent a car and take you out to dinner at least part of the time they are here. And if you also want to suggest that they stay at a hotel, feel free to do so.