Dear Queenie,

  I’ve been invited to a fancy wedding and the bride just asked me if I would watch over all the little kids who would be there.

  Queenie, isn’t this kind of rude?—Offended wedding guest


Dear Guest,

  Even if you are in the child-care profession, yes, it is kind of rude.

  You have several choices:

  You can agree to her request.

  You can agree, but quote her a fee and/or tell her it will be your wedding gift to the happy couple.

  You can accept the invitation but tell her you are sorry, you will not be available for child-care because you would not want to miss out on any of the happy event by being distracted by the children.

  Or, you can turn down the invitation.