Dear Queenie,

  I like to go out to dinner with friends every week, but the restaurants they choose are kept so cold with air conditioning that I just can’t take it. Some of them have outdoor dining, but it is just too hot or windy or there are too many bugs.

  Queenie, why can’t I get to choose what restaurant we go to?—Shivering at dinner


Dear Shivering,

  If your friends are paying for your dinner, it is only fair that they get to choose the restaurant, although they might be willing to listen if you make a suggestion as to where you would like to eat.

  However, if they are too warm in the place you choose there is nothing they can do about it, while you can always carry with you a warm sweater or even a jacket to wear in the cold air-conditioned places.