Dear Queenie,

  My brother-in-law is jealous because he thinks our daughter is the favorite grandchild over his son, and I have found out that he goes around saying nasty things about me to other family members behind my back.

  I don’t have anything to do with him except at family events, but then I can’t avoid him.

  Queenie, what should I do?—Fed up


Dear Fed up,

  If your family members know you well, they know how little your brother-in-law’s remarks about you are worth. At family events, avoid him as much as you can and be polite to him when you cannot avoid him. The others present will appreciate your forbearance and will probably ignore any remarks he makes about you.