Dear Queenie,

  My son and daughter-in-law recently invited us and her parents to their house to celebrate their baby’s first birthday. They have a small house and the baby doesn’t do well when there are a lot of people, so it was just the baby’s parents and grandparents.

  A few days later some of our other relatives called to ask why they weren’t invited to the party and some of them were really upset that they hadn’t been included.

  Queenie, how do we answer them?—Harassed grandmother


Dear Grandmother,

  Just tell them what you have told me – the baby’s parents have a very small house and the baby does not do well in big crowds, so it was just a small “grandparents only” occasion. Then do not let their questions bother you.