Dear Queenie,

  In my family, us children were raised to know that once we finished college we were expected to be able to support ourselves, and that is what we all have done. We have all done quite well and now in fact we are able to help out our parents when they need it.

  My fiancé is quite well-off, but some of his family are not and he is constantly helping them out with money.

  Queenie, it looks like it will always be this way. What should I do?—Worried fiancée  

 

Dear Fiancée,

  Once you marry, you and your husband-to-be should make financial decisions together. You need to sit down with him and discuss this matter, and if he will not do so now, he is not likely to do so after you are married. Pre-marital financial (and other) counselling might help.