Dear Queenie,

  The daughter of a person I work with is getting married and he has invited everyone he works with to the wedding, even though most of us have never met the daughter. When his older daughter got married he also invited all of us and got very upset when only one of us showed up.

  Queenie, are we obligated to attend?—Co-worker


Dear Co-worker,

  You are not obligated to attend if you have no wish to do so, but consider your colleague’s possible reaction if you do not. You might also consider whether it is your presence at the wedding or your present to the bride and groom that he is after. You could send a small gift along with your regrets that you will not be able to attend. That might make your colleague feel a little better about your absence.