Dear Queenie,

  My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. The past few years she is not very affectionate, she won’t even hug me to say “hello” or “goodbye,” but I saw on her cell phone that she chats a lot with some guy from where she works and some of these chats get pretty hot. She doesn’t know what I saw.

  Queenie, do you think she is cheating on me?—Worried husband


Dear Husband,

  Some people (both men and women) enjoy flirting online. It is just fantasy to them and they do not think it really means anything. However, you should not take this for granted.

  It is time to have a serious talk with you wife. Do not accuse her of anything, just tell her what you saw, tell her how it makes you feel, and ask her what, if anything,  in fact is going on. And if she says or does (or does not do) anything that indicates problems in your marriage, ask her to go with you for professional marriage counselling.