Dear Queenie,

  My daughter and her fiancé planned a small wedding with just their parents and her sister, and invited all the rest of their relatives for a big family get-together to celebrate after they got back from their honeymoon.

  However, one of her cousins showed up at the wedding ceremony.

  Queenie, how does my daughter get over having her wedding ruined like that? And what does she say to the cousin when she sees her again?—Angry mother of the bride


Dear Angry mother,

  Unless the cousin misbehaved at the ceremony in some way, I do not think she “ruined” your daughter’s wedding.

  And if word gets out that the cousin was there, just explain to anyone who asks that she showed up uninvited and let them tell her what they think of such rude behaviour.