My brothers and sisters and I are trying to plan a surprise party for our father who is about to turn 80. The problem is that we can’t agree on what kind of party to give him. Everyone has a different idea – night out at a restaurant, picnic on the beach, barbecue in someone’s back yard (but whose yard?) and so on.
Queenie, how do we decide before there is a major family feud?—Baffled
Forget about the “surprise” party and ask your father what kind of bash he would prefer. After all, it is his birthday, so give him the kind of party he wants (if any!) rather than what you would like him to have.