Dear Editor,
When one’s heart is severely broken, and he or she lacks the proper guidance to remain positively motivated, the situation can be very lonely and extremely challenging. For more than a month, this reality has manifested itself intensely, as the population listens in awe to the aggrieved spouse of MP Theo Heyliger.
The mixed reactions to Mrs. Heyliger’s mode of expression can be justified. However, when the dust is settled and self-evaluation kicks in, would she be contented with the results? Just as troubling is the group that she chooses to associate herself with, during this difficult family upheaval – the same group that is consistently plotting to throw down the current administration, just to get back in power.
What Mrs. Heyliger does not realise is that this group’s agenda and hers are completely different. Right now, she has entered their den, which appears to be a place of refuge; but when she gets comfortable, they will devour her like hungry lions and then leave the carcass in the desert to rot. Since this group is enshrined in moral principles, would Mrs. Heyliger be so kind to inform the people of the transaction that was proposed, in exchange for her public disclosure of events?
Be aware! No one who claims to love this country will damage it with destructive propaganda, just to be popular. If Mrs. Heyliger is unsure of one’s true character, she needs to examine the past and current behavioural patterns of any individual, and she will get a clear picture of his or her future conduct. People do not change! They skilfully adapt to circumstances, just to fulfil their concealed motives.
It is important to note that at age five, 80 per cent of one’s perception of the world is already formed. This outlook on life is based on a person’s environment and the values that he or she chooses to embrace. Here is a quote that I cherish a lot: “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”
If I were in your position, I would have consulted the spouses of those who were in similar positions and learn how they have utilised their strengths to overcome these personal challenges. As far as I can recall, none of them came to the airwaves and embarrassed themselves, nor have they allowed others with ulterior motives to capitalise on their weaknesses.
As a professed Christian, what better way to test your faith than to consult the God of the universe – the One who can restore your strength and courage to face one day at a time. Remember, there are moments when “Silence is a source of great strength.” And, “When you talk, you are only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.” Which will you choose?
Joslyn Morton
