Dear Queenie,
My brother divorced his wife after more than 30 years married and got together with a foreign woman who is younger than his own daughters.
I’m planning a barbeque party for my birthday and I want to invite the whole family, including his ex-wife and their grown-up children who I’m still very close to, but my brother will want to bring his new girlfriend who the whole family disapproves of.
Queenie, what should I do?—Can’t decide
Dear Can’t decide,
I suspect you will be stuck with your brother’s new girlfriend, so let everyone else you invite know what to expect. Especially warn your ex-sister-in-law, explaining that you will understand if she chooses not to attend, but that you hope she will be there too.
