Dear Queenie,
My mother and my stepfather got divorced because he had an affair and was not faithful to her.
He was always a good father to me and a good grandfather to my children and he wants to stay involved with us even if not with my mother.
Queenie, I want to be loyal to my mother. What can I do?—Confused stepson
Dear Stepson,
Tell your mother’s ex that you still appreciate everything he has done for you and your children, and that you will stay in touch with him, but that you will not be seeing him on any occasion when your mother is present.
