Dear Queenie,
My fiancee and I have been living together for many years and at first we used to have sex quite often, but as we got older (we are now both in our 50s) and she put on some weight and her daughter and granddaughter came to live with us the sex got to be less and less often until now it’s not at all.
Queenie, am I doing something wrong or are those all good reasons for what is (not) happening?—Deprived fiance
Dear Fiance,
Your fiancee has good reasons for her loss of interest in sex. As a woman gets older and goes through “the change of life”, not to mention gaining a lot of weight and the presence of her child and grandchild, her ability to have sex and interest in doing it decrease.
She should consult her family doctor, and possibly a specialist, for the physical reasons, and possibly a psychological counsellor, together with you, for her mental issues.
Meanwhile, I hope you will continue to love her and give her all the mental and psychological support you can.
