Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend lives with her elderly mother who is healthy and can walk without help but doesn’t like to be left alone. We can leave Mom and go out on short dates, but we’d like to take a weekend trip together and Mom won’t even let us talk to her about it without making a stink. When we suggested getting a friend to come and stay with her while we were away she wouldn’t even consider it. The only person she wants taking care of her is her daughter.
Queenie, is there anything more we can do?—Disgusted Boyfriend
Dear Boyfriend,
Are there any assisted-living facilities or senior citizens homes in your community? If so, find out whether any of them will take in a “guest” for a brief stay. If so, give Mom a choice: Either she stays there while you are away or you will arrange for someone to come in and stay with her.
