Dear Queenie,
I have been divorced for several years, but my mother still includes my ex-husband in family gatherings even though I have asked her not to.
Queenie, what do you think about this?—Divorcee
Dear Divorcee,
If you were married for a long time, and especially if you and your ex have children together, I can understand why your mother still considers him part of the family and I can understand why she includes him in events where the children will be present. However, you can ask her not to do so every time, and I see no reason for his presence if his children are not there.
And if your mother is still fond of him, I see no reason to object to her socialising with him when you are not present.
