Dear Queenie,
Some friends of ours recently held a “benefit dinner” to raise funds to help out a family member with funeral expenses.
Queenie, I can understand asking for financial help with medical problems or education expenses, but isn’t asking for help with the cost of a funeral a bit too much?—Donation Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
Holding a “benefit dinner” is a public advertisement of a family’s financial problems, which is not in good taste. Plus, it would be better to give the money that would have been spent on food and entertainment directly (and privately) to the family in need, and to ask those who would have been invited to do likewise if they wish to help
