Dear Queenie,
I got into some trouble when I was a teenager and got sent to detention. After I served my time and got released I finished my education, got a job, and never got in trouble again.
I’ve started dating again and I need to know when to tell someone about my record. If I say anything too soon it will put them off. If I wait too long they will dump me for not saying anything sooner.
Queenie, what do you say?—Ex-con
Dear Ex-con,
This is not something for you to talk about on your first few dates. But once someone has had a chance to get to know you, around the third, fourth or fifth date, you should tell them. If your crime was not a violent one and you are not on an offenders list, your date should be willing to hear what you have to say and understand that you have turned your life around.
