Dear Queenie,
My sister-in-law has some very bigoted ideas that I very much disagree with.
Queenie, how can I protect my children from her ideas and still get along with her?—Father with principles
Dear Father,
Let your sister-in-law know you disagree with her ideas, but do not argue with her about them. And when you are alone with your children explain to them how and why you disagree with their aunt, with a full explanation of what you believe in.