Dear Queenie,
Whenever my husband is upset about anything he starts a fight with me that doesn’t have anything to do with what he is upset about. I suggested he get counselling about this, but he won’t even consider it. He said there’s nothing wrong with him, it’s my fault for making him mad, and then he started a fight about my suggestion that he needed counselling.
Queenie, what more can I do?—Frustrated wife
Dear Wife,
Your problem is not so much that your husband takes out his frustrations on you as that you allow him to do so. This is emotional abuse on his part.
If he continues to refuse to get counselling, you should get counselling yourself to learn why you put up with his abuse and what you can do about it, even if it means ending your relationship with him – and if so, how to go about doing so safely.
