Dear Queenie,
A few years ago I found out that my husband was having an affair with his girlfriend from high school, who was (and still is) also married. They ended it when I told them I knew what was going on and since then my husband and I have made up and are doing very well together.
However, I still wonder whether I should have told that woman’s husband, even though I promised her I wouldn’t.
Queenie, what do you think?—Keeping her secret
Dear Keeping,
It has been several years since your husband’s affair with this woman ended. Do you really know what she has been doing since then? Has she been faithful to her husband since she ended the affair with yours? And, is it possible that her husband knew about her affair with your husband and patched things up with his wife when that affair ended, as you did with your husband?
Whatever has been going on between them since then, you probably would be causing both of them unnecessary grief by bringing up a past that is over and done with. Try to forget all about it.
