Dear Queenie,
My husband just turned 40 and I’m a couple of years younger. We have 3 daughters and my husband has always wanted a son. The youngest girl is just a few weeks old and I had a difficult time while I was pregnant, with serious major complications, according to my doctor.
Now my husband is already talking about trying again for a boy. I don’t want him to spend the rest of his life pining for the son he never had, but even if we try there is no guarantee that it will be a boy.
Queenie, do you think it is worth trying again?—Middle-aged mother
Dear Mother,
The person you should be asking this question is your obstetrician – and take your husband along with you when you ask.
As you say, there is no guarantee that this time you would have a boy, but it is highly likely that you would have serious complications during and possibly after the pregnancy. Is your husband willing to risk your future health, and possibly your life, for a child that may well turn out to be another girl? Personally, I do not recommend it.
