Dear Queenie,
My daughter and son-in-law got divorced recently and I just found out that a few months ago when she found out she was pregnant with their second child my daughter found a way to end the pregnancy because she knew they wouldn’t be together much longer.
I am totally against abortion because it is against my religion.
Queenie, how do I get over this and forgive my daughter?—Mourning my lost grandchild
Dear Mourning,
I understand why your daughter did not tell you all this, knowing how you feel about such things, and I am wondering how you found out, but that is beside the point.
Whatever your beliefs are, you have to accept the fact that others, even your own children, may not share them, and you have to accept their right to their own beliefs just as they have to accept your right to yours.
Try to concentrate on the grandchild you have in this time that must be very difficult for him or her, not on the one that “might have been.”
