Dear Queenie,
My son is going to marry a woman from the USA. It’s going to cost a lot for the rest of our family to attend but we all want to be there for his big day. The bride’s family offered to pay for us to stay at a hotel, but we don’t want to take their money.
Queenie, are we still expected to give them a big wedding gift and pay for the rehearsal dinner?—Not rich
Dear Not rich,
Do not spend more than you can afford on all this. It will help if you accept the bride’s family’s offer of lodgings. Then tell your son how much you can afford to spend on the rehearsal dinner. If it costs more, he will have to pay the balance himself.
And you might suggest that he and his bride hold a reception later in your hometown for those friends and family who could not afford the trip to his wedding.
