Dear Queenie,
Some of my family always give me gift cards on special occasions. Then later one of them will ask me what I got with the card and when I tell them they act offended as if it is something they never would have given me.
Queenie, what should I say when they do this?—Offended recipient
Dear Recipient,
You could ask them in return, “Why do you want to know?” and then change the subject. Or you could tell them what you got and go on and on about how much you are enjoying it without giving them a chance to say anything else. Or you could just change the subject without answering their question at all.
After all, the card was their gift to you, not what you did with it. If they had given you a piece of clothing, for example, would they then have any right to ask – and approve or disapprove of – when and where you had worn it?
