Dear Queenie,
We have a relative who is on the outs with one member of our family. We can’t decide whether or not to invite this person to family events for fear they will make problems and offend other members of the family, but we don’t want to offend this person’s parents and brothers and sisters by leaving this one out.
Queenie, what do you think?—Reluctant hosts
Dear Reluctant hosts,
Have a talk with this person’s parents and siblings, explain the problem and ask them if they think this person will behave properly. If they are not sure about it, tell them you will leave this one person out rather than risk having him (or her) cause a scene and offend your other guests.
