Dear Queenie,
The grown-up daughter of a friend of mine recently died in a car accident. My friend, who lives away from here with her new husband, did not come to her daughter’s funeral.
Queenie, shouldn’t I be shocked?—Shocked friend
Dear Friend,
Is it possible that your friend and her daughter were estranged? Or your friend may have health or financial problems that prevented her from travelling.
Let your friend know that you were surprised by her absence. If she explains, all well and good, but let it go at that.
