Dear Queenie,
A dear relative died some time ago and I still remember him with sadness. Sometimes I hear people talking about him and saying not-so-nice things about him.
Queenie, how can I get them not to talk that way about him?—Still in mourning
Dear Still in mourning,
Just tell them he was your relative and you still miss him and you wish they would not talk that way about him where you can hear them.
You can also look for a grief support group. A professional counsellor, or your clergyperson if you are a religious person, can probably help you find one.
