Dear Queenie,
When my daughter was a child I had to work full-time to support her because her father never paid any child support. I had to depend on his mother to take care of her while I was at work and his mother never liked me and she told my daughter awful things about me that just weren’t true, but my daughter believed her.
Now my daughter is all grown up and we are estranged because of all the lies her grandmother told her (and still tells her).
Queenie, is there any way I can reconnect with her?—Unhappy mother
Dear Mother,
You can try to tell your daughter the truth about the things her grandmother told her about you, but she may have trouble believing you unless you can show her proof of what you are saying. Professional counselling for the two of you together might help, if you can persuade her to go with you, but if she will not go, go by yourself to learn how to deal with her and with your feelings about her behaviour.
