Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I are both retired and we have been going out together for about a year. My only problem with her is that when we go out she is always looking at other men, younger ones, and this makes me feel uneasy and disrespected.
Queenie, is there any way I can get her to stop?—Unhappy older man
Dear Older Man,
It is as natural for a woman to notice attractive men as it is for a man to notice attractive women. If all she is doing is taking a quick look, you should not let it bother you. However, if she is staring, comparing them to you or even flirting with them, you should let her know that she is hurting your feelings and ask her not to do it when the two of you are together. Her reaction will tell you whether or not you have a serious problem.
