Dear Queenie,
My niece is getting married in a place far away from where I live. It would cost a lot for me to attend, plus all the problems the pandemic is causing, so I won’t go, but do I still have to send a gift and, if so, what kind of gift should I send?
Queenie, does it have to be a very expensive one to make up for all I won’t have to spend on travelling?—Wedding gift Etty Ket
Dear Etty Ket,
According to etiquette, the amount you spend on a wedding gift is not related to the amount you spend or do not spend on attending or not attending the wedding.
Give your niece what you can afford to give her, and let her know how much you regret not being able to be present to see her get married.