Ask what turns her on.
Don’t underestimate the power of your tongue. No, not like that; well, not yet at least. Having an open, honest (JUDGEMENT FREE) conversation with your partner about what they’re attracted to really creates a healthy line of communication. It shows you care beyond just receiving pleasure.
Boost your foreplay quotient.
Do you go to work for an hour and expect a huge pay-check? If you do, kudos, but most don’t. Spending more time teasing and tantalizing can increase the suspense and make the actual deed all the more rewarding.
Expand your repertoire.
Take notes from Snoop Dogg – he’s about 100 years old, but he has never restricted himself to a specific genre of music. Change up your game. Don’t know if your partner will like it? Come up with an Explorer Night where the two of you can experiment together. This puts you both on the same playing field, so that neither of you feels shy about being awkward alone.
Don’t neglect some naughty parts.
Being an in and out kind of guy only works if you’re a plumber, but you won’t lay pipe efficiently if you follow those rules in bed. Do some research, find out what spots you can fondle and tease for a bigger release.
Positioning for hitting that spot.
Everyone is different. What is good for the goose isn’t always god for the gander, if you know what I’m saying. While you’re researching parts, look up positions that will match your personal style and form.
Reward bravery.
No, you don’t have to say thanks – well, maybe it’s up to you –but you can show your gratitude. Reward your partner with a known favourite from your old bag of tricks.
A trick for lasting longer.
Learn your pleasure triggers. Yes, yes, it’s hard to think once you’re in the moment – no pun intended – but a little mindfulness can go a long way. Knowing your triggers can help you delay the fireworks a while longer.
Another good trick for lasting longer.
Switch it up. Once you’re mindful of your surroundings and triggers, if you don’t think you can delay the inevitable, give yourself a break by switching to an entirely different position. Another more fun option is to return to some foreplay techniques and make them mid-play tricks for lasting longer.
Kissing keeps it going.
Just because you’re not a teenager anymore doesn’t mean you can’t lock lips like one! Kissing raises the levels of intimacy and gives you a bit of time to gauge how you’re going to display some of your newly found talents.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Pun intended! Thanks to the invention of unrealistic sexual behaviour – thanks, porn – people tend to believe things are supposed to go down a specific way. Don’t be fooled by the hype. Not everyone looks, feels or performs the same. The first time didn’t go so well? Go easy on yourself and try again.
