“…’cause I had some issues
I won't commit, no, not havin' it
But at least I can admit
That I'll be bad, no, to you (to you)”
Here we are. Another Wednesday morning when I say, “Oh sh-crap! My article is due.” It’s been a busy couple of days and I’m currently driving, but I’m not texting. I’m using the diction option thing to form the text as I speak. #Ingenious
Wale says, “Bad girls ain't no good, and the good girls ain't no fun... And the hood girls want a smart jigga... College girls all want a thug... So it seems that we fiend what we don't need.”
That really stood out to me while I was sitting in thought recently. I’ve observed that as human beings, we tend to indeed desire the things that we may not necessarily need. It may be due to comfort, a level of excitement or maybe just plain-out stupidity. But I guess that’s how we are, right? Flawed.
Have you ever heard a girl say that she always ends up with an a-hole (not sure if my censorship allows the use of the actual word)? Or see that guy that is always with a Thotiana? #Cardi
It’s the strangest thing.
I even find myself in those situations. I have some friends that I know are 100% ride or die for me, but on a regular “shmegular” day, the persons that I want to hang out with are those douche bags that always seem to blow me off (lol). How sway?!
I haven’t really figured out yet if I’m just stupid, or maybe it’s the adrenaline rush of not knowing if this person is going to cancel on me or not; but overall, I think there’s a screw loose somewhere.
Where comfort is concerned, I think it’s easier for some to stick to what they know, instead of having to put the work in with something new, even though it might ultimately be better. Excitement is excitement and sometimes putting yourself in situations that may have a negative outcome would indeed give you that excitement and that adrenaline spike #IWannaLive. And stupidity is definitely just stupidity. Don’t be a dead conch.
Honestly, thinking about it; sometimes we do see things in people that they do not see in themselves (or that others might not see in them). We also go as far as treating them the way that we see them and not the way that they are, which can be a good thing in terms of trying to bring out the best in the person.
However, where I think we make the mistake is setting a standard for that person and expecting them to respond to us in the light that we see them, when, in reality, they can only respond based on the light that they see themselves in. You can bring me to a two-way street, but you can’t make me drive. Hmmm...
*Cues Bad from Wale featuring Tiara Thomas*
