“I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women”
This piece has been on my mind for a little bit and I was supposed to drop it last week, but I chose to rant instead.
I watched Briana’s Instagram story on Tuesday and she mentioned not “liking” to leave her house. She mentioned it because some creep in a van followed her because he “had to tell her something”. Like bro! Could you not?!
While I was in New York, a model asked me during a shoot, “Cam, how can I know if a photographer is a creep beforehand?” The question caught me off-guard because that’s never something that I have to think about. As a guy, I rarely have to worry about if the person I’m about to meet for the first time is a creep or could possibly approach me inappropriately.
There was a model for whom I did a shoot in her apartment and what did cross my mind was the fact that her being here alone with me must mean that she trusted me. I’m pretty sure people knew where she was and who she was with as a precaution, but if I was a creep, they’d only know “after-after” the fact.
Sometimes, I’m walking and I see the way men look at women and it PISSES ME OFF. I can see a beautiful female and admire her. I can see a nice butt and admire. But some men literally stare at these women like “You know what I’d do to her if I got her alone” – and tha heck is repulsive.
Something that I’ve developed from young, growing up with a lot of sisters, is to walk behind them so that I can see what’s going on around them. And I do it now with my models or female friends. So what happens is when a guy is eyeballing them, I can see him, but as soon as he’s done, he sees me in the back giving him the “I’ll cut you look!” – and trust me, I’m always prepared to back that look up.
I suppose growing up with so many females around has given me the appreciation and respect that I have for women; but it also has to do with a natural mature sense of respect for humans and especially women – not to mention that I have goddaughters as well. And I’m not saying that you can’t slide in a DM, or approach a woman or even stare; but sheesh, man, have some level of respect and in some cases just plain-out decency.
Man, I know females that try dressing down, using headphones, wearing headphones that don’t work, making fake phone calls and coming up with all sorts of means to avoid unnecessary, indecent approaches and gestures by men. Like tha heck is definitely not cool and absolutely uncalled for! And it goes beyond just avoiding the gestures, but sometimes they even come up with these means to feel safe.
That blows my mind.
It blows my mind that a woman can’t feel safe going where she wants and wearing what she wants, all because the male species, being naturally bigger and stronger, feels the need to take advantage of their advantages. Like I got and still get so enraged when I read what these men are doing to women and GIRLS in f..... Sudan. Like how!????
Like I get that humans should respect humans #ThatsLaw, but I’d much easier disrespect another man before I do so to a woman. And some men can carry that disrespect so far as to rape a woman! To rape little girls!? Bro, let me at some of these cats!
I got a special type of love for females. Having sisters and working with female models have shown me through stories and even first-hand that it’s hard out here for a female.
These men – WE men – need to get this shi-tuff together! Tupac been telling us for years that we gatta respect the ladies! But everything now is “bitch this” and “bitch that”. I HATE TO HEAR FEMALES REFER TO THEMSELVES AS “BITCHES”. Tha heck urkssssss me.
But that still ain’t and should never give a MAN reason to ever disrespect or indecently approach a lady.
Before I gatta fight somebody…
*Cues Keep Ya Head Up by 2PAC*
