Dear Queenie,
Whenever my neighbors would go on vacation I would take in their mail and water their plants for them and they always thanked me for doing it. However, when I was sick recently I asked them to take in my mail and feed my dog and they refused, so I had to arrange for him to go to a boarding kennel.
Now they are going to go away again and they expect me to take in their mail and water their plants as always but I don’t feel like doing it because they weren’t willing to help me out when I needed it.
Queenie, am I being vindictive?—Angry neighbour
Dear Neighbour,
No, you are just feeling used, and rightly so. You were doing them a favour, which they refused to reciprocate, and you have no further obligation to them.