Dear Queenie,
My husband and I have been together for 30 years and married for 25 and for all that time he has had an eye for other women and I am not sure he has not cheated on me. Now he has taken to watching porn on the Internet and I know that he [masturbates] while he watches, but if I ask if he wants to have sex he says, “No.”
Queenie, I feel like this is cheating but he doesn’t think so. What do you think?—Angry wife
Dear Wife,
I think it is a form of betrayal, but your husband may not learn to understand this without professional help. Professional counselling might help him understand.
It might also help you decide what you are willing to put up with for the sake of your marriage, and how to do so.
