Dear Queenie,
I have some medical conditions that I have to take medicines for and these medicines make me very sleepy and sometimes they just knock me out. Several times I have waked up to find that my husband has taken all my clothes off and is touching me or even having sex with me while I was knocked out
He says it’s okay because we’re married and because he knows I would say “yes” if he asked me when I was awake.
Queenie, is he right?—Angry wife
Dear Wife,
He may be correct in thinking you would say “yes” if you were aware of what he wanted to do, but he is oh so wrong in thinking it is okay for him to do it when you are not aware of what he is doing.
In some places this is legally classified as “spousal rape” and, in any case, having sex with someone who is not in condition to give consent is a form of sexual abuse, which is punishable by law. If you cannot make your husband understand all this, a marriage counsellor, or even a legal professional, might be able to do so.
