Dear Queenie,
My girlfriend and I have been going together for a couple of years and living together for the last six months. Since we’ve been living together we don’t do any of the things we used to do when we were just dating. We don’t go to the movies or other events or even just go out to eat at a restaurant, we just stay at home and do housework or watch TV.
Queenie, how can I get her to do the kind of things we used to do?—Bored boyfriend
Dear Boyfriend,
Make a list of the things you would like to do with your girlfriend and, with her cooperation, set one day (or night) per week as “date day (or night)”. If she is not interested in the things on your list, suggest that she make a list of her own as well.
If this does not help, professional relationship counselling might be in order for the two of you, but if you cannot persuade her to go with you, go by yourself.
