Dear Queenie,
I am going on retirement pretty soon and I am wondering what life will be like without a job to go to every day. My wife is a good mother and grandmother, she is just great with children, but she doesn’t have anything for me anymore.
I like visiting with friends, but she is happy staying home all day taking care of the house and her garden and if we ever go out, she is the one who chooses where we go and what we do when we get there, and if it’s a restaurant, she even chooses what we both will eat. We hardly ever have sex because she makes it clear she doesn’t like it and is just doing it to please me.
Divorce is against my religion, but Queenie, what will I do all day every day after I retire from my job?—Husband about to retire
Dear Husband,
You can keep occupied by volunteering your services with a service organisation that will value the skills you have learned in your profession, or even just the natural abilities you have to offer.
You might also benefit from professional counselling, by yourself or with your wife if she will go too, to learn how to cope with retirement and how to bring some zest back into your marriage.
