Dear Queenie,
My husband’s father is getting married on the same day my family is having a big retirement party for my father. My father-in-law knew about this when he and his fiancée were planning their wedding, but they still chose the same day.
My husband wants me to go to his father’s wedding, but a lot of my family who live elsewhere are coming here especially for the party and I don’t want to miss seeing them.
Queenie, what should I do?—Can’t be in 2 places at once
Dear Can’t,
No, but you can go first to one place and then to the other.
Your father-in-law knew about your father’s party when he planned his wedding, so he would have no reason to be offended if you miss his wedding.
However, you could plan to attend the ceremony, stay long enough afterward to congratulate the happy couple, then leave to go to your father’s party. Your husband can stay for the wedding reception as long (or as briefly) as suits him, then join you at your father’s party. If anyone in your family asks where he is, explain the situation to them. I am sure they will understand.
