Dear Queenie,
My wife always told me I was only the second man she ever had sex with, but after we were married for several years I found out from some friends of hers how much she played around with so many different men when she was in college. If I knew this before we got married I wouldn’t have married her. Now I wonder what else she lied to me about.
I love her and I want for us to stay married but I don’t know what I should do.
Queenie, please help me!—Confused husband
Dear Husband,
Your wife was probably ashamed of her sexual past and lied to you because she knew how you would react. You need to get over the way you feel about all this or, if you cannot, think about ending your marriage. A professional counsellor could help you work this out.
And think about this: The number of men she has slept with since she married you is far more important than the number of lovers she had before she met you.
