Dear Queenie,
I have always been independent and since I graduated college I have had good jobs and lived on my own without any help from my parents.
However, my brother still lives with them and depends on them for almost everything. Sometimes he gets a low-paying or part-time job but it usually doesn’t last very long.
Queenie, I know this is really up to my parents, but should I maybe say something about it?—Disgusted brother
Dear Brother,
You could point out to your parents that they are not doing your brother any favour by allowing him to remain dependent on them.
However, have you considered the possibility that your brother may have some medical or psychological problem that prevents him from being able to live on his own?
You might also discuss with your parents what will become of your brother when they are no longer able – or around – to take care of him.
