Dear Queenie,
I found out that my husband was having an affair with a co-worker and he promised to end it and I am sure he did, but I just can’t get over what he did, no matter how hard he promises not to ever do anything like that again.
Queenie, how can I learn to trust him again and go on being married to him like before?—Heartbroken wife
Dear Wife,
Not being able to trust your spouse is very damaging to a marriage, or to any relationship for that matter. Professional marriage counselling would help you learn to deal with all this.
Ask your family doctor, or clergyperson if you are religious, to refer you to a marriage counsellor. It would be best if your husband goes with you for counselling, but if he will not, go by yourself to get the help you need.