Dear Queenie,
I’m planning on asking my girlfriend to marry me and she wants to design her own engagement ring.
Queenie, should I still give her a ring when I actually propose to her or just wait for her to come up with her own?—Her boyfriend
Dear Boyfriend,
There are no rules about how to propose marriage, and giving a ring with the proposal is not necessary. The engagement begins when the woman accepts, not when she starts wearing an engagement ring. All you need to do is ask her to marry you, and then cooperate with her on designing (or selecting) a ring.
