Dear Queenie,
If two people are accustomed to having sex together, is it okay for the man to have sex with the woman while she is asleep? I say it’s abuse. My sister disagrees.
Queenie, what do you say?—Just wondering
Dear Wondering,
If a man has sex with a woman without her consent, it is not just abuse, it is rape. And if the man is so incompetent that the woman does not wake up to either protest or give consent and join in on the act, I would not say they are having sex “together”.
