Dear Queenie,
I got married recently but most of my family lives somewhere else and did not attend because of the expense. Over the years I have gone to a lot of such family events and I always gave a nice gift, but none of them even sent us a card, let alone a gift.
Queenie, what do you have to say about all this?—Offended bride
Dear Bride,
It is always good manners to send a card in response to an invitation to such an event, even if it is only an RSVP, but a gift is not mandatory if one does not attend. And there may still be some gifts on the way. But whatever happens or does not happen, please do not let this become a reason for a rift in your family.
